Often I get asked "what is your favourite part of a wedding to shoot?" and aside from the whole freakin' thing being my favourite I do especially love the little moments that make everyone smile! Those little differences in a wedding that really make your day your own and not just a replica of your Pinterest board!
The moments like this below! Kim and Justin wrote love letters to each other and read these before the ceremony! Both of these lovebirds started with an intrigued expression as they surfed the words within the letters. Then they smiled and giggled! As I watched these two read their letters separately it was like they were so in sync because they both smiled and giggled around the same time the other did!
A tip for brides & grooms, grooms & grooms, and brides & brides... Think about how you go can make that special day a little bit extra. This is such a romantic way to set the mood for the day and bring out all the nerves and excitement!
Next is an image from a previous wedding and is of the good ol' classic game... Singstar!! Who doesn't love to have a fine crack at this beast of a challenge! These bridesmaids and the Father of the Bride for sure enjoyed themselves while singing along to some very very very high pitched QUEEN!
These guys had me laughing away for ages and made the getting ready process something I don't think any of these guys will forget especially me!
We have this moment the bride made her own bouquet as she walked down the aisle! Thats right!
Each guest was invited to hold a bloom as she walked down the aisle taking each stem from the guests. By the time the bride had reached her groom she had a full bouquet of amazing flowers that made the ceremony just that much more intimate and special!
Be sure to comment and let me know what your ideas are for making your wedding day just a little EXTRA!
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What you see above is three of the most exciting, Pinterest worthy images ever!! Since the beginning of my career (2 years ago) I have been dreaming of the moment I get to capture a proposal annndddddddd now I can share share share these beautiful snaps!
Around 4 weeks ago my brother-in-law Codey came to me to mentioned he wanted to propose. It was Codey that suggested I take the photos and he proposes in the middle of the session. Now... you can imagine my excitement!! Of course I was onto this plan like an insane animal. I was so excited only Codey had told me he wanted to propose June/July of 2019 so it meant waiting 6 months for these epic images! And then...
It was Monday the 4th Feb 2019 and I received a message from Codey. It read... "Oi what are your plans for Friday after Valentine's Day?". I knew instantly why he was asking but decided to play dumb lol. Then after a little while of throwing messages back and forth like a game at Wimbledon I finally send the diamond emoji with a question mark. Codey's reply... "yeah that". And so began the preparation. How were we both going to work together to ask Maddy to do a shoot without her being suss?
1. Text Maddy and ask her to do a styled shoot for me to build some content for my social media accounts.
2. Incorporate props and tell Maddy the props are to make the images stand out for the usual "couple shots".
3. Endlessly say sorry for making her drag Codey into another shoot leaving her thinking it really is for my social media content.
4. Suggest what I would like her to wear. Not what she should wear but what I think would suit my style of photography I am going for.
5. Do ALL the talking and make sure Codey leaves this part of the planning to me.
6. Arrive late... just to build Codey's nerves ha ha ha
7. Codey mentions he has to wee but then says "nah I'll hold it". This is when I say "no go to the bush and do a wee and I'll take some photos of Maddy's flower crown on her head". Perfect cover up for Codey sorting the ring out.
8. Take the biggest hike right to the end of the beach to wear them both out. This makes Codey calm his shit a little because he is too busy worried about not sweating through his shirt and Maddy is too busy whinging about the 500m hike along the beach!!
9. Do 2-3 Poses before telling Maddy to face her back to Codey while he comes in and hugs her from behind. Give Codey the thumbs up as Maddy looks away and wait until she turns around.
10. Success! Maddy turns around and instantly runs to Codey and takes that ring like a hawk with long claws swooping in for its prey!
You see prior to this Codey paid me a visit and we came up with this 10 step plan and it successfully worked!! The happy couple pulled off an epic proposal and its all captured for everyone to see!!
The moments you see below are raw moments that happened straight after Codey proposed and this is the whole reason I love my career!!!
So if you are guy/girl/other wanting to propose to your significant other in a way such as this... Come and hit me up with a message and I will have you covered!! This epic proposal is one to remember!!
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Here I go again! Having a bitch, a moan and a cry as I type out my thoughts and feelings onto a screen in hope someone will read it and feel the slighted bit amused. Thats why we blog isn't it? As an act of entertainment for followers? Thats why anyone does anything on social media these days in order to gain a like or a follow? And I have nothing against this in fact I am pro "this" ... to a certain extent. If you are getting followers and likes and shares by causing harm to yourself in an idiotic manner then I am not for "this" but if it is that you are the type of character that will upload a humorous clip or image to social media only hoping to bring a glimmer light to someone's day then I am here as a supporter and I laugh along with you.
I am here to tell a tale. Rather I am here to "Blog" about why blog. Is there a sense of irony there? Who knows I am just going to get to the point. You see.. during my high school years I was always a writer and loved English. I won awards for short stories I had written and enjoyed taking my brain on a wonderful journey as I twined together words, sentences and paragraphs in order to create works of art through words on paper.
While I may not be the perfect writer.. I do have my giant share of spelling mistakes and poor grammar, I do love it. I finished school about 4 years ago now and its taken me 4 years to find the thing I love most. A career in photography. Along with this career I not only take photos I also, edit, create youtube content, build an instagram following and ... blog. Blogging clears my head and allows me to transfer all of the heart ache, sweat and tears onto a post.
As you may have noticed. I generally try to blog about things that everyone can relate to whether you're into photography, you're engaged, you're sick or you're sad. I've blogged about my concerns such as what to do when I finish my full time job, I've blogged about my journey to being a photographer and I am now funnily enough blogging about why I blog. These topics can be a source of inspiration, a spec of humour or can spark a new interest in following my journey.
Some comments have been made to and about me with regards to my blogging, youtube and what ever else I've been posting on. These comments are along the lines of... "She's just posting shit" (could be true) & my favourite one "She's trying to be one of those influencers but isn't going to get anywhere" I like that one... Once upon a time I would have listened to this and stopped what I was doing right away. But now mature me at the ripe old age of 22 with bruises and scabs knows much better. You see those people who are "anti you" and/or "anti you being you" are still following your bloody instagram. They are still taking time out of their day to talk about you. They are wasting their energy on you even if its just for 1 minute of their day. You are on their minds and thanks to the ones I am talking about you know the "haters" your likes, follows and shares are gaining because they just cannot miss anything on your social media accounts. They can't unfollow you because if they do they would have nothing to bitch about and their lives would be boring and the conversations would be empty and lifeless like a half sucked mango. This is directed at no-one in particular but is one of the reason I continue to blog. I am not only getting those frustrations out on paper but I am clearing my head of "dead weight". PHHHEEWWWW!! I feel better... Don't you?
Now on another note ( a liberating one at that) blogging on my own website gives me freedom of speech and actually allows my clients to understand myself as a person. I love showing my bright, bubbly and awfully bogan personality through my work, my youtube and my blogs. I can say what ever I like and I will know that some people out there will read my blogs and maybe laugh, maybe cry and maybe get a little shitty. And that's the whole purpose. I want to not only be relatable but I want you to feel. I want you to not just look at my work and book me. I want you to understand me. You can't just book a photographer. You need to know who they are. You need to understand them. And then... only then.. can you find it in yourself to want to book your photographer... which will hopefully be me if I haven't made you hate me by the end of this blog.
Writing is like a drug. Its addictive. Corny line I know but it's so bloody true. If you ever get 5 minutes to sit down and write something... anything.. it could even be a facebook status.. then do it. Put yourself out there and share away your feelings, your thoughts and your journeys. If you don't want to share them then maybe try reading some blogs. After all, a lot of us.. like me, put in a bucket load of effort into typing these beasts out. There is so much spell check involved and grammar and shit. Then, after you read it, like, comment and/or share. Show the world and help one individual spread their totally relatable (maybe even rubbish) blog because you can never support a writer too much.
I hope you enjoyed this one and I hope I didn't go off topic too much. I am currently sitting here with about 2 energy drinks and thoughts floating through the air like flying post-it notes trying to catch each one and write it down at a very unreasonably late time of the night.
Remember to like, comment and share! It takes 2 minutes to help people like me get out into the world with a tiny bit of exposure. (totally trying to be an influencer oh golly me)
So for the past month I have really had a strong focus on getting some engagement sessions completed. Why am I going to blog about engagement sessions? Well I am a 100% believer that engagement sessions are a fundamental part of the wedding planning process!
You see... My motto (that has been mentioned in past blogs) is "You'd rather have and not need it then to need it and not have it". I literally say this for everything even when I am at Kmart scootin' my trolly down that bloody aisle with all of the artificial plants!! So lets start here. Let's say you book me for your wedding day but you don't want an engagement session. Some clients will book with me over facebook/website etc. Now I like to meet my clients before their big day but sometimes this doesn't happen due to schedules on both ends. Therefore I can sometimes find myself coming into a wedding day where I don't know the bride or groom. Sure I've read their info form they filled out but I haven't had the chance prior to learn about the couple on a more personal level. This is where the engagement session is crucial. An engagement session gives me as the photographer a chance to get to know my couples and how they prefer to be photographed. I quickly find out what pushes their buttons, what poses they are most comfortable with and who leaves the toilet roll on the hanger without replacing it with a new one which in turn allows me to work with my clients on a level that makes everyone feel comfortable and as if we've known each other for ages!
You come to the engagement session and you have no idea how to pose or you say to me "I hate photos". Heres my chance to A. Make you LOVE yourself in front of the camera and B. Allow you to get familiar with posing and how to make your poses flow from being wrapped in each others arms to opening up like a book and facing the camera with those piercing eyes! After just a single 1 hour engagement session you will leave feeling like a pro and come into your wedding day fully prepared to work along side me as we make you look like a magazine cover bride/groom. You will have learnt all my handy tips and tricks to remember whilst posing for example I often have my couples take a few attempts at walking together hand in hand.... Seems easy right? NOPE! 90% of my clients will over think even a basic human ability and this is where my tip comes in handy.
1. Start with holding hands as you start to walk.
2. Keep your feet forward at all time and avoid walking with toes pointed outwards.
3. Walk slow... stroll
4. If your really panicking about "doing it wrong" then every 3 steps have your partner reach over with their outside hand and hold your hand with their two hands causing you both to bump shoulders and look more intimate.
You will finish up your bridal party shots and come with me to get your bridal shots and you will know exactly what to do when I ask you to both just take a stroll as I follow and capture you both. This will allow you to be more comfortable during the process.
Display! Display! Display! Your engagement session can be displayed everywhere! Your facebook feed, your wall, your office desk, hell! even at your wedding! Once you receive those images you will have endless opportunities to display your memories that have been captured! ANNNNNDDDDD at the end of the day the only thing you will regret is not booking in your engagement session! So what are you waiting for? Message me and book your engagement session in! I will help you to book in your Engagement and suggest fun activities, locations and props!
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I came into this year with no vision boards, no plans and no idea what the hell I was going to do with my photography career... I had all the gear and no idea.
January 2018 hit like a slap to the face... I was unprepared for the year to come. I knew I wanted out of my basic 9am to 5pm office job and so not long after the year had started I did exactly that and moved into another career path to pay the bills while I work on my photography. And before you start thinking "oh here we go Demi rambling on about her bloody back story of how she became a photographer" well.... "EEEHHHHHHHHHH" you're WRONG! This is simply the recap of the amazing 2018 and what I learnt on my journeys and from my mistakes.
So anyway... I started a new job in early February at a children's service taking on a traineeship to complete a certificate III in childcare services as well as building that photography career up. Whilst unprepared and with no real idea of where I was headed, I knew one thing, and that was I wanted to branch out throughout my community and get my name known as a photographer or at least my company's name out there so that hopefully within the following 12-24 months I could take this gig full-time. And so I sent myself on a mission... To begin this mission I told families at the service about my photography, I regularly posted in the local notification facebook pages, I booked clients that I didn't know which was different because only in the previous year the majority of my work was coming from family friends and relatives, and I also started to offer my services for not just weddings and engagements but for events and small projects.
It came to the middle of the year and I had worked a few weddings by myself and with other companies. My experience and knowledge was expanding and I was so grateful that people could actually start recognising me as a photographer! Throughout the middle of the year was my most experimental. I started to explore different aspects of photography such as maternity.
I had organised with my best friend Erin (who is an amazing hair stylist from Sydney now working in Newcastle) and a make up artist from Singleton (known as Olivia Richards Makeup Artistry) a maternity shoot for a mother from the service I was working at who was pregnant at the time. After much organising we all met up at a salon and made this mumma look amaze-balls!!! And then we moved on out to the farm and started shooting! This was epic! Not only had I connected with two local businesses, I had also branched out to a local mum to be and helped her feel amazing for the day during the end of her pregnancy which we all know can just be exhausting! It was a win win all around, I got the shots, both businesses got advertisement and the mumma was feeling HAAAWWWTTTT and totally pampered! She also scored a few shots to keep! And this was the beginning of my roots growing through this small town. I then journeyed out towards Bulga on one sunny weekend during the middle of the year and captured a few corporate shots for a guy that worked for a local mine. This was not something that I had done before but was happy to lend out my services in order to talk to someone new about my photography with the hope that my name would be struck in a future conversation he may have with someone looking for a photographer. And thats the aim of the game...
You see, while this may seem controversial or strike a few cords it is in fact true that we in Singleton live in a small town that thrives from word of mouth whether it be good news or bad news you can be sure that someones got a whiff of some hot gossip before the local Argus does and evidently it spreads like wild fire. And with this is thought in mind, I wanted to strategise this throughout 2018 while building my business. Making sure I go above and beyond for every client whilst talking to the community and being involved as much as I can so that people could start spreading the name of this business. I wanted people to realise that I am here and ready to capture those beautiful moments that somewhat become forgotten in the near future. And so with much hard work through this communication method and all the blood sweat and tears that go into pushing an identity to exist on social media I finally started to notice the likes, comments and shares rolling in as well as the clients...
I had also scored a daycare photo gig which you guessed it was at the service I worked at... But hey! I got the gig and got to work with some awesome kids! It was something different from what I usually photographed and opened my eyes to a whole other world of photography. I was so happy with the outcome and with the compliments of my work being poured in like a warm hot chocolate. And this allowed my business to be advertised throughout the service as well as have families enquire with me about doing some family sessions! It was an amazing opportunity and something I would look forward to doing again!
It came toward the end of the year, that stage in the year where your just off the halfway mark but not quite close enough to the end to start the Christmas shopping and I started to book more weddings for the following year, write more blogs and even form a youtube channel. I thought since I had taken off like a big red rocket I would start to create new goals. And with the thought of my traineeship finishing in February of 2019 and me being jobless I started to think about what I should do. Should I take this full time? Should I get a casual job while I try and take this full time? Should I go drive trucks? Nobody could tell me what I should be doing because at the end of the day it is up to me and while at the moment it is still one of the hardest decisions with so much to consider I am set on making a full-time photography career only just trying to figure it all out realistically. I recently set a poll on instagram with 95% of my following telling me to take this big step and while that was amazing and really inspired me to do so there were some fears and concerns. Will I have enough clients week to week to sustain an income that will pay my mortgage? Will I stand out from the rest of the local photographers in Singleton and Newcastle? Is it too hard? Can I wrap my head around GST and BAS and all that jazz?
Questions I am finding I am asking myself every 3 seconds like a fish in a bowl swimming around being surprised by that one bubble that has been there every time its swam a circle.
Therefore I am ending my 2018 like I did 2017 only slightly more experienced and sure of my photography art making skills. I still have no plan. I still have no ideas. And I am probably more confused than I was going into 2018 but for those who knew my well know that I am one who does everything last minute and somehow flukes a lot! And so I end this blog still unsure of my future and with no idea on how in the world I am going to take this full-time. But at least I can say I am going to give it a red hot crack! And please remember to like, share and comment my posts and get in contact with me in regards to a session or if you'd just like to have a chat! Bring on 2019!!!
There is no secret to success! It is the result of preparation, hard work and learning from failure. As Steve Jobs said "If you look closely , most overnight successes took a long time". And that my little achievement seekers is the truth!
When I first started my business I won't lie, I thought "Money, Money, Money" and I also thought "Everyone in my town is going to want to book me for their wedding as their photographer soon enough!" Did this happen? No, rookie mistake. And does this happen now after a little over a year of being in business and run off my feet? No and nor do I expect it I mean come on I literally started this thing a little over a year ago. And that my friends is REALITY. The truth is sure! I am busy booking clients for weddings, engagement sessions and collaborating with local businesses but I am still not busy enough to take this gig full time. And I am not ready either! I have just been to see my accountant to wrap my head around what I am doing in terms of running a business and if I am even doing this whole business owner thing right. It turns out I am but there are still areas of improvement for example, remembering to keep receipts instead of letting them fade away in the back of my car. So for me I believe I need some more time to understand a few key factors of how the elves work together to record and document all of Santa's tax, income, expenses etc. before I can really bite the bullet and take this full time.
For me, I personally am a very passionate human being and I wear my heart on my sleeve! So when it comes to running this business I give it 110% most of the time. I say most because there are other important contributions to being successful in life such family, study oh and the full time job I have for example. But when I am working on building my photography business I really give it a red hot crack! Hence my blogs always being uploaded at around 10pm on a week night. I finish work at 5pm, come home, cook and clean, and then finally sit down to edit some photos on one computer, study on the other and somewhere in between write a blog here and there. I like a billion images on instagram, comment on another billion and follow people constantly. I make sure my facebook is updated regularly and same with my website. I message clients and future clients about sessions and answer all enquiries.
Now it is time for some wise wisdom from this 21 going on 5 year old. And here it is... We are all human. And what are we best at? The answer is Trial and Error. Your old aunt Fanny might tell you that eating all of those chocolates will give you a belly ache but you shrug your shoulders and say "No it won't" and sure enough you eat those chocolates like Augustus Gloop and then... next thing you know its coming back out to say hello from either one of your ends and your left all alone with a belly ache and no chocolates left in you because they just came out. So now when ever I fail miserably I think back to the situation and wonder "what is this trying to teach me?" rather than "F**k! I wish I didn't do that!" and I strongly suggest everyone else try this too as it would make everyone a little more happier and successful in their own minds.
So in light of failure I am going to list for you 3 of my fails of the past 12 months, they may seem embarrassing or they may seem small to some but they each a important in helping me to be successful.
1. The time I forgot to charge my camera batteries...
Yep.... I had a session booked in at Maitland for an early morning family session. The night before I plugged my batteries into their chargers and went to bed without a worry in the world. I even slept in giving myself only just enough time to get to my site. Living about 30 minutes from where I needed to be I left myself 1 Hour prior to the session to gather my things and go. I grabbed my batteries and off I went. I met with the family and got things moving.
My battery light started to flash on my camera and it was RED. I changed my batteries.... Bare in mind I have 4 with me at the time. And not a single f**king one was charged!!! They all flashed red and with ever flash of red I saw beam from my camera another tear came from my eye in panic. I kept swapping batteries and drained every last bit of life out of those little suckers and manage to finish my session. While I got my images completed thanks to what ever devine being was watching over me at the time I learnt from this that I need to double check my chargers and make sure I turn the power switch ON because I didn't.... Simple little error could have cost me big time especially when travelling from Singleton to Maitland!!!
2. That day I took some friends on a bear hunt...
As many of my closest friends would know I am not the best driver. Now combine my terrible driving skills with the unsure knowledge of Newcastle and we've got ourselves a doosie! I met with a couple that I have photographed before to come and have a session with me in Newcastle while I have someone video a behind the scenes... if you have seen the video you'll be able to picture the couple. After hanging out at Glenrock I decide to take them into the Newcastle City for some cute urban shots. I drive to Newcastle and don't ask me what these streets are because I have no clue but I drove in circles around the train station, around parks and around one way streets to find a park to stop and take images. Finally I found what I thought was a car space only to realise I was parallel parking in front of a driveway. After much time the sun started to disappear. And with every minute passing my frustration and panic grew more. I finally find a paid parking space and we headed over to a park. Got some cute shots and not enough time to really utilise the location. I now know I really need to scout and gain knowledge about my locations before my sessions otherwise I will be running around like a headless chook looking for a park or even have to face trying to parallel park again.
3. Overexposed settings...
You know it people. I sometimes still have this issue. I changed my settings on my camera according to the natural light source that is infront of me. How did I manage to somewhat tackle this triangle of Apeture, ISO and Shutter speed? I worked as a second photographer where I learnt a lot from experience, I youtube for days on end figuring out the triangle aannndddd big surprise I used the trial and error concept within my sessions. I experimented with light and sources that impact and image and allow me to make art as a photographer. I failed with really horrible images. But with practice I learnt what is needed and what is not needed in various situations of lighting throughout a day and/pr a night.
As well as the trial and error concept there is also the short term goal factor. Instead of starting a blog or a youtube channel and expecting to be the next Jana Williams overnight, set a goal to make a blog and get that blog noticed. You can be successful in doing this by simply writing the damn thing and sharing it until your heart stops. Eventually you will get those likes, shares and comments. And use word of mouth. Get people talking about your business or your art what ever it may be. Stand out and allow people to form opinions wether it be good or bad which I am going to talk about next.
Even if someone if hating what you are trying to achieve wether it be start a business, make art, make a blog or get noticed at all those haters are still using their own time and energy to get to you. You have made such an impact on those people that they are going out of their way to get to you. And the biggest revenge to that is giving those haters the biggest bird they have ever seen and I mean not even literally flipping them off, just being silent is enough to really piss someone off because when you ignore those nasty messages and comments you allow that hater to sit there in their chair behind that keyboard and ponder what your going to say and they'll wait and wait and wait and then be pissed even more because they didn't get a bite so they'll eventually move on but still theres nothing more satisfactory then knowing that person is sitting there waiting for you and your just sitting there smiling and waving. Literally go Amanda Sings on them and say to yourself "Haters Back Off". But also take the time to appreciate the fact that you mean that much to them that they burnt like 10000 calories just typing those nasty messages out. Because even when someone is hating on you, they are still talking about you because in reality you can never make someone stop talking about you. Annndddd so your success story is being built because word about you is getting out and your becoming noticed while Wendy over in the back is texting her friend complaining about the efforts your putting in actually deeply inside jealous that you have the drive in you to keep trying to be successful.
There you have it... there is but no secret to the long awaited success. There is only one thing we people can do and that is Trial and Error. Make those mistakes I beg you just make those mistakes and learn from them. Go on have that 7th shot! You'll regret it in the morning because you ended up getting with creepy ol' Timothy but that next morning you'll say I now know my shot limit.
Hope my wonderfully wacky words have inspired you all to keep trying!
The title of this blog is pretty self explanatory but I am going to elaborate on it anyway because hey.. This girl likes to blog.
"You'd rather have it and not need it than need it and not have it" is a quote I seriously need to have tattooed to myself in the most cliche spot on my body. I use this phrase for everything especially when it comes to couples and families that are hesitant about getting their photos taken. I may even sometimes abuse this phrase when is comes to going on late night trips to Kmart after my husband asks why I am travelling 30 minutes out of town to go and get a sparkly pen and some other unnecessary stationary that clogs my office to the brim like a container full of left overs your taking home from dinner with your parents. Yeah... you know what I mean.. mmmmm love me some left over Sunday roast.
I often find the first message I receive from a potential client is "Hey how much for a _____ shoot?" When I give the juicy details of pricing the next message is usually "we haven't had photos in years" and/or "I'll have to check with my partner we aren't sure about posing for a camera". Attention all genders! Unless your Adeline from the Age of Adeline you my friend only have one life. And it's a short one at that. So when considering getting a memory captured forever I preach to you like a choir at Megan and Harry's Wedding please please please just book the session. And I don't mean with me you can book it with anyone! You would literally rather have the photos taken and not need them ever but to just look back on when your old and wrinkly like that peach in the back of your fridge than sit there like that old peach and go "hmmm I wish I got those photos taken now".
Attending one of my sessions in a memory made in itself. I bring with me not only my camera but a big ol' bag of personality and entertainment whether its me falling over that invisible thing that no one saw in front of me or telling a joke I was 100% sure wouldn't crack a smile but told anyway. I plan each session prior to attending one. Through phone calls, messages and emails I pick up each client's vibe and plan my sessions around my perception of my client. And yes we mustn't judge a book by its cover which is why I do find out a little about my couples and families through asking questions about them first also. I do have a bit of a giggle when I get to make those shy couples come out of their comfort zone a little bit by making them eskimo kiss and tickle each other which for some couples they would never do on a regular basis ("oooooo awkward!"). So these little moments in turn are then known as memories so that when my couples and families look back on their images they say "Hey I remember when Demi made us do that!".
I strongly believe this also applies to engagement sessions. So you've just become engaged right? And you're not sure about getting an engagement session done because well you'll have the wedding ones anyway and it's not really in your budget and you don't have time and you.... stop right there. Ya basic! Listen here.... "You'd rather have it and not need it than to need it and not have it". Book the engagement session because if there is just one tiny, little tiny fairy on your shoulder whispering in your ear telling you that maybe you'd like some engagement sessions then you need to book it ASAP! And again you don't have to book with me just book it with anyone get those memories snapped up so when your old and cant remember if you brushed those teeth in the morning you'll know you can still look at those images and remember what Demi made you do to get those images and you may laugh, you may cry or you could hate me for making you dance in a street full of tourists; who knows!
I hope my sassy story has inspired you to book your next session.
Talk Later loved ones x
Okay Okay Okay so you all told me you wanted some wedding day tips... So here are my wedding day tips that I always let my brides/grooms know during their engagement sessions or prior to their wedding to help them along with their day.... P.s. this is in no particular order! I am just writing these as they come to my mind.
1. “The Kiss” when you go in for the kiss make sure you don’t over think it and don't be afraid to get a little saucy! When in this moment look your partner in the eyes and just go for it! Try to kiss for a minimum 4 seconds to allow the photographers and videographers to get that winner shot and to really savour the moment! You just became married for life! So grab your now husband or wife and kiss them in a way that'll make all the hearts throb!
There you go! Thats the first tip you may think wow Demi thanks for nothing but I must say everyone is different and I have seen very quick pecks that are hard to capture!!
2. If you’re travelling a long distance for your wedding ceremony and/or reception remember to make a checklist of all the things you need to take out such as this one;
3. Your vows, Don’t try too hard to be funny unless you are genuinely a funny person but in saying that if you think you’re a really funny person chances are you may be wrong and you should try avoiding this in your vows. Be genuine! Google a few examples if you’re having trouble and elaborate them from there. Make them personal, add touches to your vows that identify your relationship together. Do you bicker like an old married couple? Do you look for ways to annoy each other? Do you try your hardest to crack a smile from your partner even though they just blew up at your partner for leaving shit skids in the toilet? Add it in!
4. Your celebrant!!! This loveable, heart-felt character that a few of your guests happen to throb over (maybe even one bridesmaid in particular) is more than just a vendor but an investment that I must stress is one of the foundations of building a vibe for a wedding! Myself, I booked Monty Haron from Holymatrimonty who is by far the best investment we had ever made! This guy knew of our love for Russell Coight from All Aussie Adventures so he turned up to our ceremony with his chinos tucked into his big brown cowboy boots and his whip!! As he cracked the whip, like Old Russ out in the bush, the ladies started to stroll down the aisle! And this my friend set the mood for the rest of the day and night!! He will forever be one of the highlights from our wedding! So when looking for a celebrant, do your research! Find a character that’s going to make every single guest remember your ceremony forever! Ours for sure did!
5. This tip can be done one of two ways... With just the two of you or your whole bridal party. We chose to do this with our bridal party!
Just after your finished getting those banging bridal photos take some time for the both of you. Before you head into the reception to be seated and once again talk to everyone but each other (which happens) take 10-15 minutes to go away from everyone, even the photographer and videographer, and talk. Savour the moment and appreciate the day with each other before heading into the reception where for the rest of the night everyone will be wanting your attention to talk, dance, take photos and have a good time with you. Have a cuddle as you look out into the distance and giggle about that one guest who kept coughing through the ceremony or that one guest who sneezed! haha
6. This was our number one rule at our wedding! We took our time with everything! There was no rushing like a headless chook and no stressing out! Now I will say the day before it was a completely different story! I was rushing to finish decorating the reception and ceremony but it all worked out with the amazing help of my trusty maid of honour Erin! But... On your day.. wake up in the morning have a mimosa and chill the f**k out. Have fun and most importantly savour every moment. Make sure you take the time to think about and appreciate every aspect of your day because while it takes forever to save for such an event and a lot of blood sweat and tears go into organising your day it is by far one of the quickest days you will ever come across! So remember chill out, don't rush and appreciate all the little things! From having your makeup and hair done, to requesting a glass refill from your maid of honour, to getting ready to walk down the aisle, to getting ready to walk into reception. Savour it all like the last spoonful of Nutella in that 1kg tub you bought last week.
And that my followers is my list of top tips for your wedding! Enjoy them, appreciate them and remember to give a like, share some love and leave a comment!
For those just finishing school I recommend reading this. Coming from my confused journey that appeared to have no direction and no plan I have finally found who I am and what I am going to do forever. It took me 4 years which can seem like a long time but trust me it goes quick! And you need not to stress about your confused pathway for life because eventually you figure it out! You wake up one day and go FUCK IT I am going to leap into the deep end and give it a red hot crack.
It was a simple comment by an old friend I ran into at a wedding I was shooting that sparked the inspiration for this blog... That and my Instagram followers voted for this over my blog idea about second shooing haha
"Wow I'm glad to see your actually doing what you said you were going to do in school" This was said to me as I walked up to an old friend from High School to say hello. Instantly the past 4 years flashed back through my head like a smack to the head. This comment will probably stick with me forever but at the same time it's made me think back on the past four years and what I have actually been doing with my life and what took me so long to grow some lady balls and start doing what I actually always wanted to do regardless of the consequences both good and bad!
So as I lay in bed on this rainy night whilst my dog barks at the pestering cat at the window I type out my story. The story of a journey.. My journey since finishing school.
It begins with an unsure mind. Throughout school I was always the "artsy" kid. And in fact as well as myself a lot of other people thought I would have an "artsy" career (and believe me it turns out that way but at the start of adulthood I couldn't see this in my future). But as many of us know the art industry is a large scaled one that can be difficult to enter without some sort of publicity stunt like shredding a million dollar painting at an auction (Banksy) and at 17 I was so unsure what direction I wanted to take! I had always been interested in photography and thanks to my parents they had just bought me my first camera. A hard working canon 700D. I used it for hobby shots here and there but never really appreciated the art I was creating and doubted I'd ever make it anywhere in photography. So with that dream short lived I sold my camera for some extra cash and accepted an offer for a 4 year Pharmacy course in Armidale. Not exactly the path I wanted to take so a few weeks after getting into the course I deferred it for a year.
One year and later and I had been out of school for a year!! Still working at KFC, painting custom canvas art on the side for extra cash and babysitting. Where the fuck did that year go? It was time for me to decide.... Do I leave my now husband for 4 years and pass a course leading me to a decent paying job or do I stay working at KFC hoping that the two of us stay together and live our lives as a happy couple? ... I stayed! I couldn't bare leaving Jacob even though it had only been maybe 1 year we were mad for each other and I just couldn't do it. I also had no interest in being a Pharmicist.
So with that said I continued to work at KFC and now the Diggers club in Singleton. Now 2 years since school and I had stopped making art all together and just focussed on getting paid each week. Not really a fun start to adulthood. I mean who says adulthood means work and bills? Adulthood should be discovering what you want to be and making that happen. I still has no clue so one day shortly after a family friend had left to join the army I thought I would do the same thing. So after talking about it with my family and Jacob I booked my interview. It came to the day before my interview. I set an alarm for 5:30am as I had to be in Newcastle by 7am for an interview. Something was ticking in the back of my brain... Tick... Tick... Tick... "I am so unsure". I didn't want to go into this unsure I needed to know I wanted it. So sure enough I got up at 5:30am to get myself ready and leave and that damn ticking was still there. So I went back to bed. Missed my appointment and gave that dream a miss.
3 years since school... I am currently working in an office for a local building company full time and whilst I did love my job and who I worked with I was never excited by the day to day tasks and didn't enjoy the fact I went from a size 8 to a size 14 due sitting 8 hours a day 5 days a week while the office was always stocked with lollies. But I stuck with it because I felt like I had no where else to go but I did appreciate the job as it showed me that admin was not for me. I took some time off and travelled with Jacob through Europe where as many of you know he proposed to me just on top of the Eiffel tower!
We had just gotten engaged and at the end of the year made an offer on our first home which got accepted and we moved into in the 4th year since leaving school (we will get to that next). It was in august of 2017 that I threw all my doubt and worries out the window and said fuck it I am taking my life by the balls and showing it who is boss. So with my big brief case full of courage in one hand and a metaphorical bottle of tequila in the other I emailed a company asking to become a second shooter. I was offered some work experience which I am always going to be sooooo thankful for as I was taught what the right camera gear to buy was and how to shot weddings. This was my leap into the deep end. After that I began to do some work for this company and still do on the off occasion. For those of you who don't know what a second shooter is, it's literally a second photographer whom attends an event such as a wedding and captures all the 'candid' shots as well as all the shots the primary photographer may not have the chance to snap.
So with a shopping list I buy my first professional camera. My baby 5D Mark IV and in my collection of lenses a 50mm f/1.8, 35mm f/1.4 and 85mm f/1.2 along with a heap of batteries and memory cards.
I also decided whilst I'm at it I will start my own business! So I started shooting for free just to make a portfolio and before I knew it I was booking clients!
Okay the 4th year. This year. 2018. What a cracker of a year! We moved into our home in February! I started a new job at the end of February to help support the photography business start up and we got married in September as well as continue to blog, post and photograph all sorts of events!! I am still currently a second shooter as well as a business owner. And as we get closer to the end of 2018 I begin to appreciate the topsy turvy journey I have taken in order to get here right now and say "I am sure" and "I know what I am doing". Although none of us ever really know what we are doing or where we are headed at least I can feel as though theres a light pointing me in the directions I need to take.
And who knows maybe the next 4 years will be completely different. Maybe I won't be a photographer... Maybe I'll be a writer or a fitness guru (lol never I love KFC too much). Who can really tell what our future holds. But from the wise mind of my Mother "we choose our destiny".
So from one sad, confused and slightly lost girl who is now certain and defines herself by her passions and beliefs I bid you all goodnight or good day which ever time you may be reading this and I hope I have shed some light on your own journey should you be a little lost in the stereotype of adulthood. Remember be true to yourself and follow that calling you have. Don't grow up to work and pay bills because you will NEVER be happy.
What happens behind the lens? Have you ever just looked at the images I spam you all with on social media and wonder what I look like taking these works of art?
Here I am! I think sometimes I may make my couples feel concerned for my safety as I go to strange yet great lengths to get some awesome shots!
For example... This particular wedding. I climbed down onto an edge of concrete dividing a pond as my couple hang out on the bride. As soon as I stepped down the couple gasped with caution. I assured them I knew what I was doing although I never really know what I am doing!
So on this occasion, with credit to the groomsman for these pics, I am able to show my audience what won't see me doing to get these images unless you are in a session. It can be a bit of a laugh to see yourself doing these things!
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